Sunday, October 9, 2011

Guilt

I find it interesting that some people are okay with feeling guilty and they are not concerned with the damage it create for themselves. There is a gain to everything we choose to do, even when we chose to keep guilt. Its like is it way to keep ourselves in check and to motivate ourselves; a way to self punish to "pay the price". But do we really need to ? I don't think so.

Guy Finley, the author of "The Secret of Letting Go" discusses this in his book. here is an article he has written on it. http://www.guyfinley.org/free-content/writings/special-lessons/2659  Love yourself enough to let go of guilt!

Friday, August 12, 2011

Set Yourself Free - Letting Go of Perfection

I am coming to believe that the strive for "perfectionism" is harmful to our health. Here is today's Daily OM. "Life becomes much more interesting once we let go of our quest for perfection and aspire for imperfection instead."
http://www.dailyom.com/articles/2011/29627.html

Saturday, March 26, 2011

Grieving and Healing: 5 Steps to Help You Through the Grieving Process

http://seniorliving.about.com/od/lifetransitionsaging/a/grieving.htm
“Being is not only beyond but also deep within every form as its innermost invisible and indestructible essence. This means that it is accessible to you now as your own deepest self, your true neture. But don’t seek to grasp it with your mind. Don’t try to understand it.

You can know it only when the mind is still. When you are present, when your attention ifully and intensely in the Now. Being can be felt, but it can never be understood mentally. “

Sunday, March 6, 2011

Morning Meditation

“May today there be peace within.  May you trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be.  May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith in yourself and others.  May you use the gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you.  May you be content with yourself just the way you are.  Let this knowledge settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love.  It is there for each and every one of us.”

The above is a reflection for each morning. [Give this exercise at least 21 days before looking for something more effective for you-we are all different.]

At first some of this may be difficult to hear and say because we might not want to be where we are.  But, if you were not in the middle of this (whatever “this” is-depression, panic, anxiety) you would not be motivated to change, to learn new coping skills, new life management skills.  You truly are exactly where you need to be-no matter how painful.  Acknowledge all the positive characteristics you possess that allowed you to accept the need to change, accept the opportunity to learn a new way of living life. 

List them now: courage, bravery, honesty, -continue your list and share it with your coach.
  
Will the "real you" please stand up-The "real you" has many good qualities and characteristics…let’s focus on those. ~Carolyn Dickman

Sunday, February 27, 2011

"Don't dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding the answer." ~ Denis Waitley

Sunday, January 16, 2011

TIPS TO HELP YOU GO TO SLEEP AND STAY ASLEEP

In Dr.  Amen's book "Change Your Brain, Change Your Body" and he offers in chapter 10 THE SLEEP SOLUTION,  "Tips To Help You Go To Sleep And Stay Asleep".   
TIPS TO HELP YOU GO TO SLEEP AND STAY ASLEEP
Here are twelve ways to make it easier to drift to dreamland and get a good night's sleep. Remember that we are all unique individuals and what works for one person may not work for another.  Keep trying new techniques until you find something that works. 
1.       Maintain a regular sleep schedule - going to bed at the same time each night and waking up at the same time each day, including ion weekends. Get up at the same time each day regardless of sleep duration the previous night. 
2.       Create a soothing nighttime routine that encourages sleep. A warm bath, mediation or message can help you relax.
3.       Some people like to read themselves to sleep.  If you are reading, make sure ir isn’t an action-packed thriller or a horror story – they aren’t likely to help you drift off to sleep.
4.       Don’t take naps! This is one of the biggest mistakes you can make if you have insomnia.  Taking naps when you feel sleepy during the day compounds the nighttime cycle disruption.
5.       Sound therapy can induce a very peaceful mood and lull you to sleep. Consider soothing nature sounds, soft music, wind chimes, or even a fan.
6.       Drink a mixture of warm milk, a teaspoon of vanilla (the real stuff, not imitation)  and a few drops of stevia. This increases serotonin in your brain and helps you sleep.
7.       Take computers, video games, and cell phones out of the bedroom and turn them off an hour or two before bedtime to allow time to “unwind” .
8.       Don’t eat for at least two to three hours before you go to bed.
9.       Regular exercise is very beneficial for falling asleep and staying asleep, but don’t do it within four hours of the time you hit the sack.  Vigorous exercise late into the evening  may energize you and keep you awake.
10.   Don’t drink any caffeinated beverages in the late afternoon or evening.  Also avoid Chocolate, nicotine, and alcohol – especially at night. Although alcohol can initially make you sleepy, it interrupts sleep.
11.   If you wake up in the middle of the night, refrain from looking at the clock.  Checking the time can make you feel anxious, which aggravates the problem.
12.   Use the bed and bedroom only for sleep or sexual activities. Sexual activities releases many natural hormones, releases muscle tension and boosts a sense of well-being.  Adults with healthy sex lives tend to sleep better.  When you are unable to fall asleep or return to sleep easily, get up and go into another room.
It is a wonderful chapter and book. Wish you well!