Sunday, July 19, 2015

Simply Being You Can Change A Life Forever


An unexpected request from a teacher I had 30 years ago, lead me to walk down memory lane, today.  The request was to write a letter to another person, Joyce, whose talents and creativity had an influence me and many others.  The intended surprise for Joyce was to compile letters from those she has influenced by naturally being herself and in return the letters will lift her spirits and give her renewed affirmation of her worth.  

Barnes and Noble cafĂ© and a table by the window provided a nice atmosphere to rediscover the memories in the back of my mind.  A Starbuck Caramel Frappuccino  (with no whipped Cream),  provided me company and I was able to jot my thoughts down on the inspirational paper I had chosen to use as the backdrop for me letter. 

This woman had only influenced my life in a 3 year period of time for only about 3 months each year. What an impact she did have on me.  She made me feel special because she believed in me. I don't remember all the details of those time, but I do remember how significant I felt.   Just a few moments and a few loving supportive words can change a life forever.

In the letter, I shared a dream I had about 15 years ago and I would like to share it here.  I dreamed I had died and was standing in front of God.  I was sad, self-punishing and full of fear as to what he would say to me.  I told him that I was sorry I disappointed him and that I had not done much with my life. He looked me in the eye and said:

“What are you talking about? You have influenced so many people for the good. Look at all the people you have touched in one way or another!”

I turned around and there was a sea of people, thousands that I knew in my heart, I had in fluenced, taught, loved inspired and made a difference in their lived. I was overwhelmed and broke down into tears of joy and the thousands stood in honor of me, loving me for who I am.

I shared this because I think that this dream applied to her and to you, the reader.  Through our experiences, every day, we touch others, inspire, teach, love and make an impact in some way.  We often do not see it.

I stand, honoring you for the gift you bring to the world! You are valuable.  When you value yourself you can finally accept the honoring that comes from others.  This is what matters the most!

“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” ~Maya Angelou


Joyce was like a bee,  going about her life acting upon her natural instincts, gifts and talents.   Wonderful things happen because of it! Thank you, Joyce! I honor you! 





Monday, July 13, 2015


I was listening to one of my 2013 Success Magazine CD's today and heard this quote by Eleanor Roosevelt. Reviewing it in my mind as to how this is applicable to my life, my mind analysed that fear is. I became aware that hesitation, insecurity, procrastination, avoidance, anger, worry, guilt and anxiety are emotions that point me towards fear.  Some of the smallest things can enable me, like making a phone call, confronting someone, speaking up in a group, traveling to a new place, admitting I made a mistake, and etc. Some of these things can set me back and allows the rhythm and flow of my life.  

On the CD, Darren Hardy, the editor and Chief of Success Magazine, stated that everyday, when he wakes up, he identifies the fears that he has and creates a plan to move through them that day. (I am paraphrasing). On Darren's facebook page today, he had two saying: 

"Fear doesn't prevent death, but it certainly prevents life." ~ Darren Hardy  and "The only thing we have to fear is fear itself" ~ Franklin D. Roosevelt

My mind was swirling even more as I review my past experience. Some of  my own blocks in the past were created by being fearful. I overcame the blocks was to face my fears and once I face my fears, the fear no longer existed.  The process made me stronger, which helped me live a more fulfilled and rich life. I was uncomfortable at times, but the benefits out weighted the heaviness of the fear. 

This simple mantra when truly implemented, can catapult in into a progressive and fulfilled life! 

My deepest gratitude to you, Mr. Darren Hardy! Your work has made a difference in my life! 

Friday, June 1, 2012

Another Year

Two times a year, New Years and my birthday,  I deeply reflect and ask myself several  questions to assist me in assessing my life's path and direction. With my birthday rapidly approaching, I have carved out time from my schedule to review and journal about the answers I am seeking. 

  • Where am I currently? (Physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually) 
  • Do I like where I am in my life right now and what can I do to improve upon it? 
  • Where I have been? (Achievements, successes, knowledge, and inner connection)
  • Is there anything I would have like to have done differently?  If so, what? 
  • Where I am going? (In the next 6 months, 1 year, 3 years and longer) 
  • What plan of action can I put in place to get over "roadblocks" and get moving on my way? 
  • Am I alignment with my life's purpose?
This year has been pivotal in shifting from a previous way of thinking and striving to a more essential way of being. I remind myself often, of the essential way of living, especially when I fall into the old patterns such as anger, sadness and negative thinking. Positive plans of action are already mapped out and I engage with them when I am, in a negative place. 

If I find myself in a negative place, I follow a simple pattern that I have used often which gets easier and easier to use each time to practice it. This may be a conversation I have with myself: 
  • "Boy I feel angry (or sad or disconnected or lonely)." 
  • "Well, I can stay in this mood or I can make a new choice and focus on something other than this." 
  • "Breathe. Connect with the moment. I feel my feel on the floor, I feel my chest moving with my deep breath, I feel myself connecting to my state of being rather than that negative emotion." 
  • "I have every right to feel angry (or sad or disconnected or lonely). I made a mistake and I felt stupid and embarrassed. I am human and making mistakes is part of being human. It is okay to make a mistake. I am okay, even though I made a mistake. I am enough, even if I make a mistake." 
  • "what can I focus on to take away the sting I feel from the self punishment I was engages in? I have some my audio book I can listen to or I can watch people here or I can go for a walk. 
  • Focusing on the present moment makes me feel better. I must have looked pretty silly being uptight about making a mistake. Laughing about it reduced the importance I placed on being perfect. All is well. I have so much to be thankful for." 
As I use this process, I am taking huge steps in breaking old patterns and old beliefs. Here is the simple break down.  
  1. Being conscious of my emotional state
  2. Allowing myself to be in that state
  3. Connect to the present moment by breathing
  4. Supporting myself and being kind to myself
  5. Changing my focus (Physically, emotionally, and mentally) to move, move me out of that negative state
  6. Staying in a positive place and connecting to the truth
When I discovered and started using this process, I was going through the process several times in an hour. Sometimes I was exhausted, but using them started shifting my awareness of the non-truths I was telling myself. When I stopped using those words and connecting to the truth, I didn't have to use the processes so much. 

It has been 10 years since I found that process. Today, I use them once in a while, because my temperament stays pretty happy these days. 

Sunday, October 9, 2011

Guilt

I find it interesting that some people are okay with feeling guilty and they are not concerned with the damage it create for themselves. There is a gain to everything we choose to do, even when we chose to keep guilt. Its like is it way to keep ourselves in check and to motivate ourselves; a way to self punish to "pay the price". But do we really need to ? I don't think so.

Guy Finley, the author of "The Secret of Letting Go" discusses this in his book. here is an article he has written on it. http://www.guyfinley.org/free-content/writings/special-lessons/2659  Love yourself enough to let go of guilt!

Friday, August 12, 2011

Set Yourself Free - Letting Go of Perfection

I am coming to believe that the strive for "perfectionism" is harmful to our health. Here is today's Daily OM. "Life becomes much more interesting once we let go of our quest for perfection and aspire for imperfection instead."
http://www.dailyom.com/articles/2011/29627.html

Saturday, March 26, 2011

Grieving and Healing: 5 Steps to Help You Through the Grieving Process

http://seniorliving.about.com/od/lifetransitionsaging/a/grieving.htm
“Being is not only beyond but also deep within every form as its innermost invisible and indestructible essence. This means that it is accessible to you now as your own deepest self, your true neture. But don’t seek to grasp it with your mind. Don’t try to understand it.

You can know it only when the mind is still. When you are present, when your attention ifully and intensely in the Now. Being can be felt, but it can never be understood mentally. “